ErikaAyersBadannet worth

At AMPD, we are committed to providing effective and efficient law enforcement services to our communities. The expectation is that we provide these services in a respectful, courteous, and professional way. Our goal is to reduce crime in Aurora and Marionville. We will work to achieve that goal through proactive law enforcement activities, thorough follow-up and investigation of reported crimes, and a robust and effective intelligence gathering process. We are also committed to working closely with outside agencies to achieve our goals of crime reduction. By working with local agencies and drug task forces, we will increase our effectiveness in crime control.

We also have an investigations unit made up of detectives, our school resource officers, and a commander who reports to the Chief of Police. This unit provides investigative services to both cities as well as provides two full time school resource officers to the Aurora R-8 school district.

YvainBadanwedding

My Dad died 2 years ago and it is true that you figure out how that relationship continues through memories, randomness that brings a laugh/joy, things that spark thoughts of him etc. I wish you strength and comfort through it all because as wonderful as you can look at those parts (they truly are, albeit sometimes meloncholy), what I found is the grief you experience is something that is harder to navigate than I ever imagined. He sounds like he was a great Dad, just like mine. Hang in there.

"Empowering Older Adults & Certified Life Coach | Owner of UPLIFTU | Pharmacist | Expert in Healthy Aging, Community Engagement & Corporate Quality Compliance | Inspiring Growth & Success"

My dad died last week which is kind of a weird thing to say and one of those things that as you say it your eyes get all watery and your throat seizes up on itself. I find myself crying in unexpected and inconvenient places like the train or 42nd street between Lex and third. Thankfully nobody looks up from their phones these days in New York City except i guess to get punched. Someone who i respect a lot but don’t know very well wrote me to say her dad died a few years back. **side note why do people say lost or passed away instead of died? Never understood that** Anyway she said: This may sound weird, but I am excited for you to discover what this chapter of your relationship with him is all about and how he fits into your life going forward. Where will you see him, what will make you think about him, how will he speak to you, when will he visit in your dreams? Two years later, I am still navigating grief but through it all I must say that my relationship with him is as strong as ever, in some ways maybe stronger. I wish similar for you. I love this concept and it gives me hope and comfort and i am excited to keep on with my relationship with my dad. I still feel very close and i don’t miss him like he’s gone im just sad he’s not here - if that makes sense.Today I’m wearing his ski jacket i stole from my parents house after he died which im sure my mother does not appreciate given they just got a foot of snow. Why am i sharing this to a professional network? A couple reasons: He loved his work and was so full from it. Three weeks before he died he was doing zoom calls with students from the ER even thought it was beyond unnecessary and impractical to do so. If you love what you do it can add so much dimension to your life and the lives of others. He liked people and to learn from them. There’s something to learn from everybody. Mostly from people younger than you. He was a contemplative dreamer. He cared for and thought deeply about education. If he was concerned about the state of kids or the classroom or the climate for educators he was just as hopeful about the power to fix it. It’s ok to think and get lost in your thoughts and it’s ok to believe even when others don’t. He would stress the best control was no control - let things happen and learn from them & adapt. Don’t be afraid to be expansive and generous in your time or in the gift of empowerment. He built people up. He was firm with a high standard but wanted the best for everybody more often than he wanted the best for himself. He had grit. He would bite down on his teeth when he was trying to figure something out. My college roomate Alyssa and i loved this picture. The background always made us laugh. We posted it up every year in our dorm. In hindsight, sitting on a chair in a NH middle school photo booth (probably with the cheap little black comb in hand) with a big smile and an eye to the future and a commitment to grow it was such a gift. Ok that’s it. ❤️

The administrative captain on the police department oversees the Public Service Officers, the Municipal Jail, Facility Maintenance, and Fleet management.

Swiss''Badan

In a recent conversation about grief, I was observing how a lack of control over our loved one’s death can spark the need for increased control in other areas of our lives. To some degree, we all feel consoled by the actual, or perceived level of control we exert over our circumstances. This shows up in all aspects of our lives. The clothes we chose, The work we do, The people we associate with, The programs we allow into our consciousness, The food we eat… Are all manifestations of our individual control. When someone dies, control is deflated. We have none.  We have no say. Our feeling that we can act and have it be impactful can evaporate. We can’t object. We can’t stop it. The illusion of control is unveiled. This can make us feel powerless. Next time you are feeling extreme or rigid about something (anything!) that pre-loss wasn’t such a problem for you, remember this: When we lose our voice in one area of life, it often shouts twice as loudly in the situations where it can. And this is blatant when it comes to grief. If you are learning to live without someone you love, through no choice of your own, don’t be surprised if you suddenly have strong preferences, aversions or opinions that seem unfamiliar. When we hit the insurmountable wall of grief after a loved one dies, we may look for other things to climb. It’s ok. And it might even be functional in the short term. But be on the lookout for drawing lines in the sand (like quickly selling a home, quitting a job, or leaving a relationship) that you might not have drawn, pre-loss of your loved one. Exercising control for its own sake can lead to disaster.

Welcome to the City of Marionville’s Police Department Webpage. The City of Marionville and City of Aurora have an ongoing partnership to provide police services to both Aurora and Marionville.

My father passed over 10 years ago. I only learned perhaps 4 years ago that before he met my mom that he was engaged to someone else. However, his fiance's dad forced her to end the engagement because in his words, my dad was a loser. Dejected, he ended up moving to the states. Later he started his own apparel factory and then a clothing brand named Lafayette 148. I have a strong suspicion that the chip on his shoulder was part of that. When I heard about the broken engagement, it made me re-evaluate my entire relationship with him. And all the times he pushed me, was about protecting me from what I can only imagine was a hugely painful part of his life. I'm sorry your dad passed away but I also hope these upcoming years give you greater context for how much he would have loved you.

We all deal with grief. Why is it not talked about more? I've been a therapist since 2016 but I've been a caregiver nearly my entire life. My beginning as a caregiver started at age 3 when my brother died of cancer. This devastating loss catapulted my parents into the agony that is the death of a child. My childhood was spent immersed in this grief with my parents and before I could define the word "grief." I know this shaped the human and therapist I am and it's why I love grievers so much. Grief manifests itself in many varied ways: 🔹 The death of a loved one 🔹 The loss of a job 🔹 The loss of a relationship 🔹 A move 🔹 Retirement 🔹 The lack of a relationship 🔹 The loss of physical or cognitive functioning and much more. Despite the many ways grief shows up in our lives and the fact that nearly everyone faces grief at some point, we are not good at making space to feel the very real grief we experience and support grievers. My theory behind our collective inability to allow grief when it's present in our lives is that our society and culture has taught us that strength and resilience are synonymous with feeling good, not crying, and pushing through adversity without acknowledging or displaying difficult emotion. To that I say, we cannot allow ourselves to process through and work through a feeling we don't allow ourselves and others to have. Here's a thought.... What if instead of associating grief and pain with weakness we associated it with humanness, made space for it, and realized that loss wouldn't hurt if it weren't for losing someone we loved, or losing a dream we had, or a season in life we can't go back to, or losing someone with whom we were never able to have the relationship we wanted? Grief isn't the enemy but not allowing space for grief in all its reality is. #emotion #grief #loss #human

ErikaAyersBadanhusband

I help brands connect with fans through innovative partnership & entertainment strategies | Ex-Microsoft, IPG, ViacomCBS | Advocate for Women's Leadership | Dedicated Mom | Queso Lover

Didn't Say Goodbye: My Unexpected Lesson in Letting Go Grief Yes, my amazing Dad passed away in my home country just 2 DAYS before I could finally get there. The story of many during the pandemic. The pain of losing a parent is excruciating. But what about when you can't even say goodbye? The grief felt as if I was trapped in a suffocating prison. But instead of letting it win, I decided to turn my pain into a catalyst for growth. This post isn't just about me; it's for anyone who's ever felt the sting of loss. As I went through this process, I realised that grief is not about death, but the feeling of incompleteness that comes with it. I came to understand that all emotional states are experienced within. I can recall a time when I used to live with my dad, and sometimes I just needed a break, and disagreements or differences were a big deal. But after his passing, those points just evaporated, leaving behind love and good memories. And if all that remains is love, then why not feel complete? Here's what I learned on how to feel complete:   Grief is a Teacher… Denying it is like trying to conduct an orchestra with earmuffs on! We got to feel it, scream into pillows, and talk about it until the raw emotions found release. It can show us the depth of love we hold, and the preciousness of life itself.    Don't Evict the Guest, Acknowledge It… Grief is part of life, just like sunshine and rainy days. Don't try to force it out; let it flow through you.   Death Transforms, Love Remains… Your loved one's physical form might be gone, but their memory and impact live on. Carry them forward through volunteering, sharing stories, or pursuing a shared passion. I found meaning in carrying my father's optimism and entrepreneurial spirit forward by creating my own business.   Celebrate, Don't Erase… Tears and laughter can coexist! Celebrate your loved one's life, quirks and all. Let the beautiful memories sparkle alongside the sadness. I chose to celebrate my father's life and be grateful for the time together. We tell ourselves stories to live, so why not celebrate the sunsets of life?   Grief is a Universal Language… You're not alone. Grief is a language spoken by hearts. Seek support, talk, and find solace in literature. Life isn't meant to be lived alone.   Forgive and Find Peace… Let go of the burden of unsaid words. Forgiveness is about releasing yourself, not condoning actions. It's about finding peace. A process, not a destination.   Life is a Journey, Not a Problem… Embrace the good days and bad, sunshine and storms. Feel it all, because life is not a problem to be solved but an experience to be felt.   Discovering Happiness Within... We may not all do great things, but we can all do small things with great love. Happiness lies in resilience, and in facing challenges with grace.   Gratitude is the Fuel… Be thankful for the simple act of being alive, for connections, and for the chance to make a difference. It fuels compassion and inspires service.

I was told something by a dear friend that I’d like to share. Perhaps your relationship with your Dad is now like the Sun & Moon. Although you may not see each other physically, you are keenly aware of each others existence, you can still affect each other, and be in harmony.

ErikaAyersBadantattoo

Sorry for your loss. So delighted to learn about his values and contributions. Loss of parents, children, spouse, siblings, or a close friend hits very hard, and it remains a constant thought for the rest of our lives. Every moment of joy and hardship brings back memories and contemplation of what it could have been with their presence. One of the reasons we say "passed away" and not "died" is the belief that soul does not die. It takes another form for multiple lives. So a soul passes from one physical form to another and ultimately unifies with oneness. We all (living things) belong to that ONE existence, with common chemistry (carbon).

About grief, I feel everyone should be allowed to face it in whatever way they wish, as long as they're not taking their lives or harming others. Don't tell people to "man up" or "that they're doing too much" because you have the capacity or frame to handle yours. This is something you can't pretend about. I've read how Adichie handled grief, and I can say it affects everyone regardless of class, achievements, or age of the deceased. When someone quite intelligent started having many carryovers because he lost his mom to cancer, I didn't go advising him with empty words, because it's only the one who's grief-stricken who knows the depth of what has hit them. •••••••••• •Some go through addictions in this phase. •Some people experience a complete disappearance of empathy towards others. •Others lose interest in existence. And so on. It's even more devastating if you witness a loved one suffer a debilitating illness before their passing. Or if they die a tragic death? How can you simply tell the grief to go away when you've seen your friend, spouse, mother, or father shot by a robber's bullet, brutally murdered by kidnappers, or crushed by a heavy truck? How can you return from work and learn that a once vibrant person is now lying lifeless, never to be seen again, except for the warm comfort of Heaven and freedom from the pains of this world? ••••••••• For some, it takes a year to heal; for others, it's a long-lasting scar in their chest. Sometimes we dwell on our fights with our parents and forget that one of the reasons for such fights is because of the love they have for us. So when we witness their death untimely, it can create an unexplainable guilt, because you'd live all your life wishing you'd have done better, been better, or said "I love you more" or "Thank you more." Grief is powerful and subtle at the same time. It is a roller coaster. Don't try to avoid it, or run from it, or try to numb it. Realize that grief has its own schedule and timeframe. Nothing is set. Don't listen to others when they tell you there is a right way, or that you should be over it by now, or not so sad. ••••••••••• Give yourself permission to grieve. Make space in your life, as this is the biggest challenge you may face on this earth. And you owe it to yourself, and perhaps to your loved one. Grieve in your own way. Without expectations. Without boundaries. Some days, grief is a low level feeling, you're aware of it, but it doesn't stop you from getting things done. Other days its like a concrete slab lying across your chest. ••••••••••• Death is Inescapable. Acknowledging this, kills your ego around your loved ones. Makes you hold back no compliment, love more, give more, withhold nothing. It also helps to tell the stories of the impact they made while alive, telling their Stories help you relive their life's even though dead. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.💐 #Onyinyechukwu #Mentalhealth

Grief is a Gift | Don't be afraid to give your grief space to breathe | Taking up space is necessary for self-care | Community Host @ Scars2Medals.com | Transcending Grief with Compassion, Conversation, & Connection

My sweet 15-year-old daughter's best friend just died by suicide...here's what I'm learning - and wish I had known earlier. Why post on LinkedIn vs. personal socials? You work with people. People have feelings. Chances are your co-workers, boss, or employee had or is going through something where these tips just may save a life. ** 1. Those close to the person who passed need you NOW! People bereaved by the sudden death of a friend or family member are 65% more likely to attempt suicide, with 1 in 10 having attempted suicide after. We gathered the close friends and their parents the day it happened and invited a licensed professional to help us. She helped them understand the emotional rollercoaster they were experiencing and how to ask for help. They put 988 in their phones (Tip: Google 988 and find out about it...anyone can call/chat anytime). For the first while, we kept a constant eye on all loved ones, and then realized that certain events would trigger the need for additional connection and support. We got used to asking, "Do you feel safe?" "Are you having thoughts of hurting yourself or ending your life?" If they are, do NOT leave them alone, and seek immediate help (988). ** 2. Grief is highly personal and can be processed. When people with great intentions tried to comfort her by saying, "I understand," or "They are at peace now,” it didn't help. Instead, give love and connection. Be there...they may not want to talk. But if they do, they probably don't want to hear advice from you. Just listen. Be compassionate vs critical. Just love, no judgment. If you feel the need to say something, try, "I'm so sorry." Or, "I'm thinking of (or praying for) you" - especially when combined with their favorite treat or a simple/thoughtful gift dropped on the doorstep. The grief seems unbearable, and yet, trying to hold in those big emotions or ignoring them only delays and deepens the pain. Learn how to feel the feels and get trained by professionals in expressing and allowing emotions. ** 3. Be honest and sensitive when talking about it. When my younger kids asked what was going on, we didn't lie or shield them from the truth. We explained that my daughter's friend had died, her body stopped working, and we were going to miss her. When asked how and why - "We may never know why. What we do know is this sweet girl was not well and wasn't thinking clearly. She felt so sad or hopeless that she didn't want to live any longer. She died by suicide." When asked what's suicide - "She took her own life. She made herself stop breathing." We didn't say "committed suicide." That felt like it was a criminal act...it was a result of emotional distress NOT a character defect or being "selfish, weak, crazy." If you ever feel unsafe or ultra sad, reach out. There are ways to get help. There's hope! 100x/day I'm overcome with love and gratitude when I simply see my girl.

Erikainstagram

Erika Ayers Badan I was incredibly moved by your dad’s obituary because I see so much of you in him - optimistic and warm…gifts that have helped you weather some crazy storms and disarm opponents….a love for the outdoors - you are such a city gal, but going off grid…your retreat to the woods…fashionista by day and lumberjack by night ;) and mostly…commitment to service..for all the good and all the bad…you know how to lead a team and commit wholeheartedly to what is best for the whole. I gladly donated in your dad’s memory - public educators, especially the dreamers and public servants like your dad, need and deserve all the support and resources. https://alumni.snhu.edu/make-a-gift/give-now?fid=BuPWffoLoGc%3d&fdesc=jdUSyty3X%2f0XiT9R1ZYHQ%2b2rnVhsWI%2fU8e7N9RcVJDQ%3d #Dick Ayers Educational Fund Love you dearly.

Both police departments can be reached at 417-678-5025. If that number is not answered, it will forward to the Monett 911 Dispatch center and you can request services from there. As always, if you have an emergency, please dial 911 for the fastest service.

ErikaAyersBadanwedding

Change is Loss, and Loss is Grief When we think of grief, it’s often associated with the loss of a loved one. But grief can manifest in many ways. We experience it anytime there’s a significant change that involves a perception of loss—loss of connection, routine, structure, or identity. Even positive changes can bring about some grief. It’s all in how we perceive what was lost during the change. Think about the last time you moved homes. How did it feel? You might have been excited about the new space. Maybe it was bigger, had new appliances, or was in a nicer location. And still, there were aspects of the move that were stressful or that you needed to adjust to. Maybe you had a new commute to work and had to find a different spot to pick up your morning coffee. Or maybe you moved away from a community you loved and now you're nervous about how your new neighbors will embrace your family. No matter the avenue in which grief has entered your life, it’s important to honor and respect its presence. 🫣 Acknowledge that it’s there, without judgment. Don't get stuck in the lie that we can’t experience sadness if we have other things to be grateful for. Gratitude and grief are allowed to be experienced at the same time. 😮💨 Feel your feelings, whatever they may be. Sadness, anger, frustration? Let your body experience those feelings, whether that be having a good cry (or several), going for a run, screaming into the void, or breaking things at a rage room. As long as you aren’t harming yourself or others, all options are on the table. 🗣️ Talk about your feelings, or what I like to call “ventilating.” Holding our feelings just for ourselves keeps them inside of us. But when we talk about our feelings with others, we have the opportunity to release the pressure valve little by little. ❤️🩹 Give yourself grace and be kind to yourself. It may take longer than you think for the sting of grief to lessen. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re having trouble with motivation or if you can’t shake a feeling of sadness. Allow yourself the love and kindness you would give to a friend in the same situation. You are worthy of it. What strategies do you use to cope with change and loss? Share your experiences in the comments below.

With staffing from both cities, the Police Department is made up of 24 commissioned police officers, 3 full time Public Service Officers, 1 full time Administrative Assistant, 2 full time Animal Control Officers, a Municipal Court Bailiff that serves both cities, and a part time records clerk.

ErikaAyersBadankids

Thank you for sharing. I love getting to know him through this post. What great advice he gave. This is the way...to hold both heavy grief and joyous memories together in the same hand. I also love what your friend said so very much - "This may sound weird, but I am excited for you to discover what this chapter of your relationship with him is all about...Where will you see him, what will make you think about him, how will he speak to you, when will he visit in your dreams?" I never anticipated or thought about how my relationship with my mom would actually grow when she died...I thought it just died with her. But it has grown in the most profound ways. I wish the same for you. Just reading this post, I believe it will. I hope you continue to find ways to gently hold both the immense grief and the nostalgic joy in one hand, allowing each to take their turns at being bigger than the other, and eventually finding ways to live harmoniously together. xxxx

Over the course of time, along with others I know on their own grief journey, I've come to understand that some will stay and some will go. What I mean by that is, once the funeral or celebration of life is over, family and friends will go back to their normal lives. And rightfully so; we all live our lives in the way we see fit. But when they stop calling or contacting you to see how you're holding up or they're afraid to speak the name of your lost loved one, it creates a void. If you've ever felt that, I imagine you understand. But here's the truth - we have to let them. Why? Because trying to control other people or outcomes is a waste of precious energy. Energy that you could be using to heal. With respect to all, I offer this piece by Cassie Phillips, who wrote this when she was 16 years old. She is known for her insightful and thought-provoking pieces on a wide range of topics, including social issues and culture. JUST LET THEM ... If they want to choose something or someone over you, let them. If they want to go weeks without talking to you, let them. If they are OK with never seeing you, let them. If they are OK with always putting themselves first, let them. If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, let them. If they want to follow the crowd, let them. If they want to judge or misunderstand you, let them. If they act like they can live without you, let them. If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open  and let them. Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own. So let them. Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you. Let them prove how worthy they are of your time. Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life. Let them earn your forgiveness. Let them call you to talk about ordinary things. Let them take you out on a Thursday. Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to. Let them have a safe place in you. Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden. Let them love you. #griefsupport #griefjourney #healing

Wealth Management Recruiter⭐️Visual Story Teller⭐️National Talent Hunter⭐️Brand Ambassador⭐️DEI Advocate⭐️Career Matchmaker⭐️People Person⭐️

My mom died in 1999 while I was in college and she still impacts my life pretty regularly 25 years later. I hadn't thought about it in the context of what that other person said, but it really is absolutely true. Our parents have such a big impact on us, for both good or bad. As I continue trying to figure out my evolving professional identity, I think about my parents and the impact they have had on my life, regardless of whether they're alive (dad) or dead (mom). Thanks for sharing and thoughts are you with you and your family.

I'm about 4 months ahead of you in the journey of discovering this new chapter with my father, he died in December. I think of him daily, I talk to him regularly, he motivates me to do better and make change, and I'm steadfast in my desire to continue his legacy of helping others while also creating my own legacy. Sounds like we both were blessed with amazing fathers. Wear that ski jacket with pride and feel close to him all day, I wear my dad's ring and I think of him every time I look at my hands (which is A LOT since I'm always typing!) Your Dad will appear in many ways, just keep your eyes open for those signs and feel whatever you need to feel each time he sends one.

Among the commissioned ranks, we have a patrol division made up of patrolmen, corporals, sergeants, and a patrol commander who reports to the Chief of Police. The patrol provides 24 hour a day police services to Aurora and Marionville. They respond to calls for service, conduct traffic enforcement, and investigate crimes as their primary responsibilities. The two full time Animal Control Officers report to this captain and provide services to the City of Aurora.

In the last few months, there have been a lot of deaths in my extended family, my friends, and their families. Death is difficult to deal with. There is a sense of bleakness that descends, and it can make you question the very purpose of your own existence. Death of a loved one brings with it, a feeling of irreparable loss and makes you go through a myriad of emotions, which are all complex, difficult to untangle, and make sense of.    Managing grief and balancing a demanding career is doubly exhausting. At a time like this, we need to allow the grief to play out. When it is difficult to face our grief, we fill our world with work or activity, so we do not feel the void of the person we have lost.   My dear friend Sonya Singh Verma saw me struggling a little bit more with every funeral and memorial I went to. She is both wise and kind and gently she asked me to sit with my grief.   While it sounded like an “easy to say but difficult to do” thing – I embarked on sitting with my grief. I am no expert here (I have carried my grief in the case of my mother for almost 2 decades) but let me share how I have been dealing with my grief.   This first stage happens when you get to know of the loss and are preparing for the final goodbye – Here the shock of the incident leaves you numb and unable to cope or comprehend. At this stage, 1. I cry – I do not hold back or try to be strong. 2. I express what the loss means to me. 3. I hold on physically to my family and friends. 4. I comfort the person whose loss is greater than mine.   The second stage is when the overwhelming reality of living without a loved one creeps in. This is when the grief comes in. Waves of grief - and painful grief at that. This is when we as people are at our messiest – with intense emotion and rawness. At this stage, 1. I sleep – I force myself to sleep and heal. 2. I tell people that I am grieving, and I will not be able to work or interact. 3. I talk about the fears, worries, and loss – each death brings about. 4. I read words of wisdom – sometimes I rave and rant against those words.   This third stage is the return to work albeit with heartache and bruises. At this stage, 1. I ask for support from my family and team. 2. I refocus on my larger purpose – which I question after every death I have experienced. 3. I spend time with positive affirmative people – doing things I love. 4. I restart my work with those activities that give me joy. 5. I make sure that I get home on time As I said, I am no expert at handling grief – so after doing all this, if I am still going down a rabbit hole, I seek professional help to manage the grief.   Grief is the price we pay for Love and each one of us will face it. Whatever our coping mechanisms may be, each one of us needs to accept the grief and sit in it.   Do share some of your coping mechanisms – we all be richer for it. #death #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefawareness #vulnerabilityisstrength #vulnerability